New IM chat on

The world-famous kinky dating site announced a completely revamped Instant Messenger system. Click on the IM button in the right corner of your toolbar and check out the new look – and more importantly, all the new options.

When you open up an IM window, you’ll get a clean, easy-to-read list of everyone who’s online and available to chat. You have the option to filter the list by who and what you’re looking for, or to sort the list by distance or age as well as by who’s broadcasting on cam right now.

If you’re not ready for a real-time one-on-one interaction with someone, you can always send them a message – or, just add them to your Hotlist and find them later, when you’re not feeling so shy.

On the other hand, if you’re bold and motivated today (and have a webcam handy), you can start broadcasting your own cam show right from the IM window. Just tap the Start Broadcasting Now button to put on a show.

Other improvements include:
– The ability to send a flirt and send a friend request right from the IM chat window
– The photos you send to others can now be larger
– The decline and reply options for incoming IM requests are easier to locate and use dating cover

A very wrong safeword !

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safeword is a code word used in BDSM for a submissive (or dominant) to unambiguously communicate his physical or emotional state to the other part, typically when approaching, or crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary.

This is extremely important if the scene involves any play that could be harmful, but is just as important in light play as well. Even if you are just using a toy, a safeword is important to have. You never know when something out of the ordinary will occur.

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Common sense: they should not sexually related and should be very easy to remember. Green, coconut, milkman for example. Bad safewords: anything that can be misconstrued as part of play, such as don’t, stop, etc.

Inside site: The Pain Files

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If hardcore female masochism is your thing, and you are getting tired of seeing porn stars acting out formulaic BDSM scenes, The Pain Files is for you.

Running since 2000, it is one of the most established BDSM sites on the web, and boasts a massive archive of full length hard SM and pain movies and photographs, all of which members of the site can stream without limit, or download and keep.

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The videos are offered in a variety of formats for any imaginable device, along with a full hi-def Windows Media or QuickTime version of each.

The big difference between The Pain Files and most BDSM sites on the web is that the scenes are shot with genuine lifestyle masochistic slave-girls, and all action on the site is very real indeed. As a result the site is not for the faint-hearted, featuring some of the hardest SM scenes you will find anywhere on the web, including needle-play, electro-shock play, heavy clamping and whipping and severe humiliation scenes. There is no acting on this site – the reactions from the girls are all clearly 100% genuine, as are the pain, fear and explosive orgasms depicted.

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The content is a delightful combination of professionally shot, exclusive, in house scenes, featuring real lifestyle amateur girls who want to explore the farthest extremes of masochistic play, and genuine amateur home-made footage, contributed exclusively by members from around the world.

Beyond the 13 year archive, the site is still very much alive, featuring multiple updates every week for members. There are new faces appearing all the time, but also the chance to follow the progress of the established slaves of the site, as they delve deeper and deeper into their masochistic natures.

The Pope breaks another

Kristine Kahill at Sadistic Rope

Kristine Kahill is over 18 and over-the-top hot. This brunette looks like an innocent babe in the woods but from this Sadistic Rope update, it is easy to see that this girl-next-door has built up some kinky needs in her tender age. The Pope brings her close to tears with his carefully orchestrated training. He has her blindfolded and gagged with rope and she is drooling and begging and wailing within the first 4 minutes – and we all know that is just the beginning. Caning, painful orgasms, suspension bondage and more tears are what are in store for this beauty… click on the image to see more…

New site: Shadow Slaves

When it comes to female submission and masochism, Shadow Slaves is a site like no other. Over it’s ten year history, it has built a reputation as one of the most original and extreme SM sites on the web, and a leader in European (English language) BDSM pornography.

Shadow Slaves is a site for the BDSM connoisseur, who wants to view something genuinely different. Shooting 100% exclusive in-house content, from a stable of real life slave-girls, many of whom members have watched progress from basic training to extreme hardcore pain-sluts over the years, the site explores the darker, more brutal, and more personal depths of the female masochistic psyche.

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The action is often very hard and cruel, often deeply humiliating, and the tears, pain and emotions portrayed are unquestionably real, but there is a unique relationship built with the membership, as the girls progress through years of training, that is rare to find on any adult site.

The scenes exhibit some of the greatest originality possible within the world of BDSM, as the genuine fantasies of the slave-girls play out before our eyes, reaching far beyond the usual ‘tied and flogged’ kinky scenes, to outrageously unusual footage of helpless girls being buried alive, pierced head to toe, forced to eat foul garbage, awoken from sleep straight into a brutal scene, public humiliation, head shaving, forced labour and more.

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The Shadow Slaves themselves are a mix of international BDSM models and lifestyle amateurs, but the one thing they all share is a real love of pain and humiliation, and a devotion to lifestyle submission. There is no acting or faking in any of the videos on the site, whether it’s tears, humiliation, orgasms or genuine fear. Many of the girls who began their exploration on this site are now very familiar faces on the more mainstream kink media.

All content on the site, including a decade’s worth of archive material, is available for unlimited download, for members to keep, and the videos from recent years are presented in full hi-def quality. The site updates regularly, with new movies, new faces, the continued trials of the established slaves, and high quality photographs of strenuous and painful bondage. Members have access to a forum where they can talk to both the slave-girls and the male and female dominants on the site, make suggestions, or even request scenes for a specific girl they want to see played out.

Shadow Slaves has been a unique force in BDSM since 2003, and it continues to astonish and surprise weekly as the stable of highly individual slave-girls continue their journey into the darkest reaches of sado-masochism, where the only limit is imagination.

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New site: Sadistic Rope

A new site joins the family: Sadistic Ropes.

Sadistic Rope brings you the most intense and brutal torment you’ve ever seen. Their irreverent director, The Pope, commands all the hardcore rope bondage and extreme orgasms, with the girls getting so mind fucked that you can see their souls start to bend.

Sadistic Rope is more than rope bondage. There’s wax play, clothespins, spanking, caning, whipping, electro play, breath play and forced orgasms. Needless to say, the quality is the same high level that you used to find on

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28 different kinds of gags

fetish scene with ball gagA gag is an interesting accessory that can be used in some BDSM sessions. We all know the “ordinary” ball gag, shown above, a must have for those who play this game seriously.  Although we may think the gag ball is the default bondage gag that is absolutely not true. First of all, there are ways of gagging, like a cleave gag, that do require to buy a specific tool, secondarily there are more gag type than you can actually imagine.

The type of gag that can be used depend on the tastes of the parties, to the type of roleplay scene, as well as what is on hand at the time and safety considerations. Some gags are designed to fill the mouth in some manner, while others are designed to provide access to the mouth by forcing the mouth open. Gags may be classified as over-the-mouth type, mouth stuffing type or mouth opening type.

Playing with gags is a risky activity. Before even thinking to try please make sure you completely understand the risks and the safety guidelines. If you’re looking for a guide, you can start from reading this one.

Here is a quite exhaustive list of gags, partially totally copypasted from Wikipedia:

kinds of gags 01 (ball)  kinds of gags 02 (wiffle)  kinds of gags 03 (bit)

Ball gag: a gag usually made of rubber or silicone in the shape of a sphere with a strap passing through its diameter. The most common diameter is 1¾ inches, but other sizes can be found. In use, the ball is strapped into the mouth behind the teeth, with the straps going around the head to secure it in place. If the ball is very large, it may be difficult to push it into place behind the teeth, or to remove it. A ball gag’s purpose is more of humiliation rather than silence; the wearer can still be heard, but it renders their speech completely unintelligible, distorts their facial features, and, should the wearer attempt to talk, excessive drooling will result.

Wiffle gag: is a simple ball gag that replaces the standard solid rubber ball with a light plastic ball similar to the one used for the game of floorball. It is generally safer because there is constant airflow.

Bit: a bit gag is styled like the bit used in a bridle for a horse, and much of its sexual appeal stems from fetishistic symbolism in human pony play. It consists of a bar that is held in place in the wearer’s mouth by straps or other device. Unlike the metal bit that is most common in horse bridles, the bar of a bit gag is usually a soft rubber cylinder. It is not very effective in preventing speech, unless combined with mouth stuffing, although it will make it somewhat more difficult for the wearer to produce coherent speech. Occasionally reins are attached. Because of the possibility of injury to the lips, the bit gag is not suitable for rough play.

kinds of gags 04 (butterfly)  kinds of gags 05 (clave)  kinds of gags 06 (detective otm)

Butterfly: a butterfly gag is a wing shaped gag, that is usually inflatable by means of a rubber bulb. The central part fits behind the teeth to fill up the mouth, while the wings go between the teeth and the lips. The gag inflates in the shape of a butterfly.[4] This kind of gag is very hard to keep in the wearer; use of an O-ring in front of the gag strapped to the back of the head will hold the butterfly gag in place.

Cleave: a more effective variant of the OTM gag is called the cleave gag. Instead of being tied over the person’s mouth, the scarf or cloth is pulled between his or her teeth. While such a gag of thin material is not very effective, a thick scarf can be used to hold his or her mouth open, and the tighter that gag is tied the better it works, although no matter how tightly it is tied, the gagged person can usually spit it out. It can be used effectively however. But even when it is applied properly, the gagged person can still nearly say the words they are trying to say, but it just comes out muffled. Occasionally a knot is tied in the centre of the gag so it works more like a ball gag.

Detective / over-the-mouth (OTM): the basic over-the-mouth gag. This type of gag is often described in fiction as preventing the subject from speaking, using soft materials like scarves and bandannas. In practice it does not silence the subject very effectively. The long scarf or bandanna is pulled over the subject’s mouth and tied at the back of his/her head. Images of OTM gags, usually applied on women, had been prevalent since the film serials of the early 1900s. For this reason, the OTM gag is associated with the typical damsel in distress. It is also sometimes called the “detective gag” because many of its first appearances were in crime serials.

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Bandit / over-the-nose (OTN): a bandit gag covers the mouth as well as the nose, and is commonly used in Japan and on many cartoons. Without stuffing it is not very effective. Also known as an over the nose and mouth gag. Its name is due because it looks similar to a bandit mask.

kinds of gags 08 (dildo)  kinds of gags 09 (ashtray)  kinds of gags 20 (dildo gag)

Forniphilic gag: a forniphilic gag is a type of gag that has the primary purpose of objectifying and/or humiliating the wearer. The gag becomes a mounting point for a tool or other device which allows a slave to perform a task or service for their master or mistress. When employing the gag, the slave’s hands are usually bound behind them so they have no other option than to control the tool with the gag. In order to provide stability and to allow the slave to control the tool, a muzzle gag with a mouthpiece is commonly used as a base for attaching the tool. Types of tool or device can be: dildo or vibrator, ashtray, toilet brush, feather duster, boot or floor brush.

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Funnel: a funnel gag consists of a funnel with a tube leading from its spout into the mouth, usually with straps to hold the tube in. Such a gag is used to force the bound person to drink a fluid. It is very easy to choke during such forced drinking. Watersports fetishes may use this gag.

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Hand: a hand over the mouth can be used as a gag. When hand gagging someone, a person usually grabs the victim from behind since the victim cannot see this coming. Then, the person firmly places their unfolded hand over the victim’s closed mouth. Then they may pull the victim into their body for extra leverage and control. Handgags are common in thrillers and are often associated with damsel-in-distress phenomena.

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Harness: a model wears a head harness with ball gag, as well as a posture collar.
A harness gag encircles the head, and the straps are generally secured by buckles that fasten at the back. Head harnesses are most commonly used to provide points of attachments to secure various kinds of gags, such as ball gags, bit gags, muzzle gags and ring gags, although they also have other uses, such as providing attachment points for other forms of bondage, or may be used simply for their psychological effect. Head harnesses may also function as a gag by themselves, by restricting the ability to open the mouth, or have a mouth cover as an integral part. Head harnesses, like many other forms of bondage, also have the effect of creating a sense of objectification and erotic helplessness in the wearer, which can be erotic for the wearer, or for those observing them. Many head harnesses are designed with straps that pass in front of the wearer’s eyes, restricting their vision, and further increasing the sense of objectification and erotic subjection.

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Inflatable: an inflatable gag is usually a rubber balloon which is inflated by a hand valve. Most inflatable gags will not hold in the gagged person’s mouth well, so the gag is usually paired with a ring gag to keep it in place.

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Knotted: a knotted gag is a blend of the ball and cleave gags. The scarf either has a knot tied in the middle and placed in the gagged person’s mouth or is an over the mouth (OTM) gag placed backward with the knot tied inside the person’s mouth. The knotted gag is able to soak up the saliva that the ball gag does not and can be easily washed for reuse. Knots can be doubled or tripled to fit the size of the gagged person’s mouth.

Layered: this is a term for a series of gags over each other, for example an Over the Mouth (OTM) over a cleave gag. Another piece of cloth could be tied under the gagged person’s chin in conjunction with an OTM gag.

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Medical: Bondage pornography also depicts the use of medical gags such as the Whitehead gag and Jennings gag in BDSM contexts. Such gags allow unlimited access to the mouth. They stop coherent speech, but do little to silence a person.

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Mouth corset: a mouth corset is a type of neck corset that covers both the neck and the mouth. Incorporating a gag into a neck corset presents a few safety issues: should the wearer begin to choke, it is not easy to remove the gag quickly. For this reason, most mouth corsets use a simple muzzle gag that merely covers the mouth and does not force anything into the mouth, thus minimising the risk. Despite not forcing anything into the mouth, mouth corsets are usually very effective in gagging the victim due to the fact that the chin piece prevents the wearer from opening their mouth and dislodging the gag and the lacing at the back of the corset holds the gag tightly against the mouth making a very effective seal. Also, the cheeks are compressed.

Mouthguard: this gag has two mouthguards, similar to those worn by football and hockey players. One rests on the lower teeth of the wearer while the other is against the top. Again, like sports mouthguards, these mouthguards can be softened in boiling water to fit to the mouth of the wearer. The mouthguards are attached to a front faceplate, like most plug gags, and straps from the front to the back.

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Muzzle: a muzzle gag works in a similar way as an OTM gag, only that they are usually made of leather, are fastened around the head with buckles and straps, and cover the lower part of the face. They have different shapes and colors, depending on the manufacturer. It is so called because it resembles a muzzle used on animals, with a flexible pad which straps over the mouth, and sometimes also around the cheeks and chin. Muzzle gags have a strong psychological effect on some people, because of the association of being restrained in a way generally associated with animals. Restricting movement of the jaw and covering the cheeks can both increase the efficiency of a gag. It is difficult to draw the line between a muzzle gag and a head harness with attached gag.
Muzzle gags are probably one of the oldest gags and illustrations showing muzzle-like gag devices have been observed from early colonial times. A muzzle gag may also have an attached posture collar and may also be fitted with an integrated pecker gag.

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Panel gag: same as a muzzle gag except without a head harness.

Pecker gag: a pecker or penis gag is a gag that has a bulge resembling a phallus (an erect penis) or a nipple that is placed into the mouth to enable the wearer to suck on it in a manner similar to an adult pacifier. The use of a phallus shape is intended to give it an erotic connotation, but it may be a large knob similar to a ball gag or it may be inflatable. The pecker may be wide and flat and large enough almost to fill the mouth, intended to depress the tongue. To keep the gag in the mouth, it is usually paired with a ring, muzzle or panel gag attached to a strap that buckles behind the head.

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Ring: a ring gag is similar to a ball gag, except that the ball is replaced by a hollow ring. The ring reduces the risk of choking, and allows access to the mouth. Oral sex may be performed if the ring is big enough. A ring gag will cause the subject to drool uncontrollably, this often being the purpose of the gag.

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Rope: a rope gag consists of a length of rope wound multiple times through the mouth of the person being gagged – similar to a cleave gag. Soft rope, such as nylon, works well for the comfort of the person being gagged, but rougher rope, such as hemp, will scratch the lips quite a bit. Rope gags can be made into a part of a full-body tie as well, if the person tying the “victim” up uses the same length of rope for the gag as he does for the tie.

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Spider Gag: a variation on the ring gag, the spider gag is also called a 2nd generation ring gag. The ring has hooks on the sides so as to keep the wearer from flipping the ring horizontally in their mouth. Unlike the ring gag which can be easily flipped, a spider gag is essentially functional and non-decorative. Generally these gags have interchangeable rings so as to accommodate both the wearers’ mouth and the size of any object that might be inserted through the ring.

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Stuff: a stuff gag is very similar to, and works in the same way as, the ball gag. The person’s mouth is stuffed with handkerchiefs, scarves, socks, hosiery, panties, day sheers, bandanas or any item rolled into a ball, acting as a stopper. To reduce the chances of choking, the stuff gag is never pushed all the way into the person’s mouth. Instead, a large part of it hangs out of the mouth, allowing the top to pull it out easily when he/she has to. Sometimes, to further ensure that the gag does not accidentally slip deeper into the person’s mouth, the top may use a larger gag. It is then secured with a cleave gag, cloth gag or tape gag. While it works in preventing speech, a person who has been stuff gagged can easily spit it out by pushing it with his/her tongue. However, it is for this reason that the stuff gag is one of the safest gags to use during self bondage, as the person with his/her hands tied can still spit the gag out if he/she feels any kind of discomfort. However, the risks of asphyxiation and choking are still present for someone who is not careful.
For the more extreme application, a stuff gag can be used in conjunction with a tape gag, effectively rendering the partner completely silent. This practice requires greater caution, since the risk for asphyxiation is high.

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Tape: a tape gag involves the use of sticky tape over the mouth. The most commonly used types are duct tape, gaffer tape and PVC tape from two to three inches wide. Tape gags are the simplest gags to apply. If the wearer blows while the tape is on it makes it easier to remove, making it not the most effective gag. To better secure the tape, a long strip of tape can be wrapped around the lower part of the person’s head. A strip from ear to ear under the jaw restricts jaw movement, making the gag more effective. However, the tape can cause the skin on the lips to be ripped off and it can irritate the lips and cause fever blisters in those who have dormant fever blisters or cold sores. The tape can also rip hair off when wrapped around the head. The longer the tape is left on, the harder it will be to remove from the skin. Though many prefer ball gags and bit gags during bondage play, tape gags are often used when neither is available. The top may also use tape during a roleplay where a ball gag will be inappropriate; for example, a kidnapper and captive scene that does not immediately lead to sex. Tape is used by kidnappers since it is most effective at keeping hostages quiet. While tape gags can be combined with stuff gags for extra effectiveness, it is easy for one to choke on the stuffing inside of the mouth.

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Tube: a tube gag uses a tube instead of a ring. It allows easy breathing but not much mouth access. It is also possible to have a tube through the ball of a ball gag.

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Whitehead gag: a Whitehead gag, also called a mouth spreader gag or a dental open mouth gag, is a device to hold the mouth open. The device is similar to a Jennings gag, the main difference being the two ratchets in front of toll.

These above are the standard types. There are then more complicate gags that are combination of one or more kinds. With a little bit of fantasy you can even made your own…

kinds of gags 98 (special)  kinds of gags 94 (special)  kinds of gags 95 (special)
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