Research on Sexual Fetishism

Hello. Yesterday I got a message from a researcher from the department of Psychology at Macquarie University, Sydney, Australia. She is conducting a study investigating how sexual object fetishes are experienced and asked out collaboration. Here is the message I received:

Dear Jay. I am a PhD candidate from the department of Psychology at Macquarie University, Sydney, Australia. I have been conducting research investigating how sexual object fetishes are experienced. I am currently seeking participants with sexual clothing fetishes (e.g. boots, stockings, panties) and other object fetishes (e.g. balloons), who are 18 years of age or over, with English proficiency, to participate in an anonymous, online research survey. Because this is a follow-up study to research previously conducted it should only take participants 4-6 minutes to complete.

This research will increase understanding of sexual fetishism, as well as debunk any misconceptions that exist.

We’re more than happy to support this initiative. If you fit in the target, you’re invited to participate in the survey. When available, the results of the study will be published in the blog.


Beware the Vibrator !

50 Year Old, Dies After Getting Vibrator Stuck Up His Bottom For 5 Days

SOURCE: Huffington Post UK, Posted: 13/08/2014 14:33 BST

A 50-year-old man died after getting a sex toy lodged up his bottom and being too embarrassed to seek urgent medical help, an inquest has heard. The man had the vibrator stuck in his anus for five days before he was rushed to hospital on New Years Eve, Southwark Coroner’s Court heard on Tuesday. The diabetic, who cared for his elderly mother at their home in Forest Hill, told a friend he had been lying on the sofa for five days feeling dizzy and weak before the alarm was raised… CONTINUE

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New IM chat on

The world-famous kinky dating site announced a completely revamped Instant Messenger system. Click on the IM button in the right corner of your toolbar and check out the new look – and more importantly, all the new options.

When you open up an IM window, you’ll get a clean, easy-to-read list of everyone who’s online and available to chat. You have the option to filter the list by who and what you’re looking for, or to sort the list by distance or age as well as by who’s broadcasting on cam right now.

If you’re not ready for a real-time one-on-one interaction with someone, you can always send them a message – or, just add them to your Hotlist and find them later, when you’re not feeling so shy.

On the other hand, if you’re bold and motivated today (and have a webcam handy), you can start broadcasting your own cam show right from the IM window. Just tap the Start Broadcasting Now button to put on a show.

Other improvements include:
– The ability to send a flirt and send a friend request right from the IM chat window
– The photos you send to others can now be larger
– The decline and reply options for incoming IM requests are easier to locate and use dating cover

The Hitachi Magic Wand

One of the best sex toys ever made, it was born as electric mains-powered vibrating massager, manufactured in China by Japanese manufacturing firm Hitachi.

The Magic Wand gained a reputation in the early 1970s as a sex toy for women. This was largely due to the writings and actions of Betty Dodson, a New York based sexual liberationist and latterly therapist. The device has been referred to as “The Cadillac of Vibrators”, in a reference to its purported quality and effectiveness compared to the then more common battery powered, inexpensive vibrators. Popularity of the unit for sexual purposes was boosted by television appearances in Sex and the City and Sexcetera, and by references to it by celebrities such as Rosanne Barr, who commented that, “Hitachi makes such a good vibrator, I think I’ll buy one of their TVs!” (MTV VMA).

The growing ease of access to the item via online sales also boosted popularity and sales. The Hitachi Magic Wand, while associated with female masturbatory use, is also recognized as a highly effective toy for males. Female use usually focuses on stimulation of the vulva and clitoris, as the unit is typically too large to be used internally in its standard configuration. Males report using the vibrator on the shaft and glans of the penis to cause orgasm. There are several uses for couples, both heterosexual and homosexual. Heterosexual and lesbian couples often use the Magic Wand on the clitoral region during intercourse.

In 2013, it was announced that the product was being re-branded as simply the “Original Magic Wand” with no labeling identifying it as a Hitachi product. Interesting to read reviews and comments wrote by Amazon customers who bought it on their site.



Femdom Strapon & Fisting

Hello my dear kinksters. After some time, I’m now writing a small website review. It looks like I finally found a new site that worth mentioning in this blog: Femdom Strapon & Fisting.

Starring mature Mistress Angelina Latex Angel, the site is all about her fisting, strapon fucking, and ass fucking her slaves. Filmed in full HD. The main topics of the site are six:

Strap-on Fucking: femdom with strap-on defines the power of the mistress as she fucks submissive ass with a multitude of different sized eye watering strap-on-dildos for the maximum effect.

Femdom Fisting: demands skilled handwork for the ultimate sphincter stretching penetration. Deep ass fisting stimulates the male prostate and gives an intense anal workout.

Femdom Handjob: mistress gives handjobs that milk sub slave cocks dry till they hurts.

Femdom Blowjob: involves her squeezing excited cocks and balls while slaves feel the wrath of her slippery tongue and hard teeth.

Dildos, Toys, Plugs: mistress uses dildos and plugs to give the ultimate male asshole work out. Too long or too wide are not options as she stretches his sphincter to accept all her formidable toys.

Femdom Anal Fucking: lol, this is her art! See to believe… : D

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Multiple penetrations

Today I want to talk about multiple penetration sex, but before going on I want to clarify some points. Although both refer to sexual activity involving multiple partners, orgy and gangbang are not synonymous.

Orgy or group sex is a sex party where guests engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity. Players can be males, females or shemales; straight, gay, lesbian or bi.

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gangbang is a situation in which one person has sexual intercourse with several individuals sequentially or at the same time. Normally there is a single individual who is the central focus of the sexual activity, e.g. one woman surrounded by several men.

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Threesome indicates a group of three individuals having sex, it can be MMF when involving two men and one woman or FFM when involving two women and one man. In a gay or lesbian scenario you will have a MMM or FFF threesome. Foursome is the term used when referring to a group of four, regardless the sex of the players. I can’t say exactly what is the minimum number of individuals to start taking about orgy, but for sure a threesome or a foursome is not an orgy.

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A swinger party or partner-swapping party is a gathering at which individuals or couples in a committed relationship can engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.

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Now, let’s talk about the multiple penetrations, which is the purpose of this post. A person may sexually penetrated multiple times simultaneously. Penetration may involve use of fingers, toes, sex toys, or penises. So, no just penises, that’s the key! Always keep in mind there is a huge variety of sex toys that can be used for multiple penetration games: butt plugs, chinese balls, strap-ons, remotely controlled vibrators and a lot’s more. A good choice could be a double ended dildo, like the one shown in the photo below. It is priced around 10$, so lots of fun guarantee at a dirt cheap sex multiple penetration 7

Double penetration shorten DP normally refer to the double penetration of a woman, with one penis in her anus, and the other in her vagina, this basic scenario is also know as sandwich. If the part being penetrated is a male, the target will be his anus. Fetish Bank has a specific category dedicated to the double penetrations.

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As you see, the target of the double penetration can be a single orifice, technically these scenarios are called double vaginal penetration (shorten DV) and double anal penetration (shorten DA). If you are very much into this kind of activity make sure to pay a visit to Bound Gangbangs which is one of the best site of this genre. There are even a few more specific porn sites featuring double vaginal only and double anal penetration only.

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Triple penetetration, when speaking about it we normally mean a sexual situation usually involving a female whose three major orifices (mouth, vagina and anus) are being penetrated by penis, tentacle, fist, dildo or other inanimate object… or perhaps some combination of the above… but the advanced fuckers can to put three cocks where normally there’s room for two!

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Hopefully I gave you some good ideas for the next time you’re going to party nasty with your friends. If I inspired you, please leave a comment and share your thoughts!

28 different kinds of gags

fetish scene with ball gagA gag is an interesting accessory that can be used in some BDSM sessions. We all know the “ordinary” ball gag, shown above, a must have for those who play this game seriously.  Although we may think the gag ball is the default bondage gag that is absolutely not true. First of all, there are ways of gagging, like a cleave gag, that do require to buy a specific tool, secondarily there are more gag type than you can actually imagine.

The type of gag that can be used depend on the tastes of the parties, to the type of roleplay scene, as well as what is on hand at the time and safety considerations. Some gags are designed to fill the mouth in some manner, while others are designed to provide access to the mouth by forcing the mouth open. Gags may be classified as over-the-mouth type, mouth stuffing type or mouth opening type.

Playing with gags is a risky activity. Before even thinking to try please make sure you completely understand the risks and the safety guidelines. If you’re looking for a guide, you can start from reading this one.

Here is a quite exhaustive list of gags, partially totally copypasted from Wikipedia:

kinds of gags 01 (ball)  kinds of gags 02 (wiffle)  kinds of gags 03 (bit)

Ball gag: a gag usually made of rubber or silicone in the shape of a sphere with a strap passing through its diameter. The most common diameter is 1¾ inches, but other sizes can be found. In use, the ball is strapped into the mouth behind the teeth, with the straps going around the head to secure it in place. If the ball is very large, it may be difficult to push it into place behind the teeth, or to remove it. A ball gag’s purpose is more of humiliation rather than silence; the wearer can still be heard, but it renders their speech completely unintelligible, distorts their facial features, and, should the wearer attempt to talk, excessive drooling will result.

Wiffle gag: is a simple ball gag that replaces the standard solid rubber ball with a light plastic ball similar to the one used for the game of floorball. It is generally safer because there is constant airflow.

Bit: a bit gag is styled like the bit used in a bridle for a horse, and much of its sexual appeal stems from fetishistic symbolism in human pony play. It consists of a bar that is held in place in the wearer’s mouth by straps or other device. Unlike the metal bit that is most common in horse bridles, the bar of a bit gag is usually a soft rubber cylinder. It is not very effective in preventing speech, unless combined with mouth stuffing, although it will make it somewhat more difficult for the wearer to produce coherent speech. Occasionally reins are attached. Because of the possibility of injury to the lips, the bit gag is not suitable for rough play.

kinds of gags 04 (butterfly)  kinds of gags 05 (clave)  kinds of gags 06 (detective otm)

Butterfly: a butterfly gag is a wing shaped gag, that is usually inflatable by means of a rubber bulb. The central part fits behind the teeth to fill up the mouth, while the wings go between the teeth and the lips. The gag inflates in the shape of a butterfly.[4] This kind of gag is very hard to keep in the wearer; use of an O-ring in front of the gag strapped to the back of the head will hold the butterfly gag in place.

Cleave: a more effective variant of the OTM gag is called the cleave gag. Instead of being tied over the person’s mouth, the scarf or cloth is pulled between his or her teeth. While such a gag of thin material is not very effective, a thick scarf can be used to hold his or her mouth open, and the tighter that gag is tied the better it works, although no matter how tightly it is tied, the gagged person can usually spit it out. It can be used effectively however. But even when it is applied properly, the gagged person can still nearly say the words they are trying to say, but it just comes out muffled. Occasionally a knot is tied in the centre of the gag so it works more like a ball gag.

Detective / over-the-mouth (OTM): the basic over-the-mouth gag. This type of gag is often described in fiction as preventing the subject from speaking, using soft materials like scarves and bandannas. In practice it does not silence the subject very effectively. The long scarf or bandanna is pulled over the subject’s mouth and tied at the back of his/her head. Images of OTM gags, usually applied on women, had been prevalent since the film serials of the early 1900s. For this reason, the OTM gag is associated with the typical damsel in distress. It is also sometimes called the “detective gag” because many of its first appearances were in crime serials.

kinds of gags 07 (otn bandit)  kinds of gags 16 (double otn)  kinds of gags 14 (asian otn)

Bandit / over-the-nose (OTN): a bandit gag covers the mouth as well as the nose, and is commonly used in Japan and on many cartoons. Without stuffing it is not very effective. Also known as an over the nose and mouth gag. Its name is due because it looks similar to a bandit mask.

kinds of gags 08 (dildo)  kinds of gags 09 (ashtray)  kinds of gags 20 (dildo gag)

Forniphilic gag: a forniphilic gag is a type of gag that has the primary purpose of objectifying and/or humiliating the wearer. The gag becomes a mounting point for a tool or other device which allows a slave to perform a task or service for their master or mistress. When employing the gag, the slave’s hands are usually bound behind them so they have no other option than to control the tool with the gag. In order to provide stability and to allow the slave to control the tool, a muzzle gag with a mouthpiece is commonly used as a base for attaching the tool. Types of tool or device can be: dildo or vibrator, ashtray, toilet brush, feather duster, boot or floor brush.

kinds of gags 10 (toilet paper)  kinds of gags 11 (spazzolone)  kinds of gags 12 (toilet brush)

Funnel: a funnel gag consists of a funnel with a tube leading from its spout into the mouth, usually with straps to hold the tube in. Such a gag is used to force the bound person to drink a fluid. It is very easy to choke during such forced drinking. Watersports fetishes may use this gag.

kinds of gags 13 (funnel pvc)  kinds of gags 17 (funnel gag)  kinds of gags 19 (funnel gag)

Hand: a hand over the mouth can be used as a gag. When hand gagging someone, a person usually grabs the victim from behind since the victim cannot see this coming. Then, the person firmly places their unfolded hand over the victim’s closed mouth. Then they may pull the victim into their body for extra leverage and control. Handgags are common in thrillers and are often associated with damsel-in-distress phenomena.

kinds of gags 22 (hand gag)  kinds of gags 21 (hand gag)  kinds of gags 23 (hand gag)

Harness: a model wears a head harness with ball gag, as well as a posture collar.
A harness gag encircles the head, and the straps are generally secured by buckles that fasten at the back. Head harnesses are most commonly used to provide points of attachments to secure various kinds of gags, such as ball gags, bit gags, muzzle gags and ring gags, although they also have other uses, such as providing attachment points for other forms of bondage, or may be used simply for their psychological effect. Head harnesses may also function as a gag by themselves, by restricting the ability to open the mouth, or have a mouth cover as an integral part. Head harnesses, like many other forms of bondage, also have the effect of creating a sense of objectification and erotic helplessness in the wearer, which can be erotic for the wearer, or for those observing them. Many head harnesses are designed with straps that pass in front of the wearer’s eyes, restricting their vision, and further increasing the sense of objectification and erotic subjection.

kinds of gags 25 (harness gag)  kinds of gags 26 (inflatable)  kinds of gags 27 (inflatable)

Inflatable: an inflatable gag is usually a rubber balloon which is inflated by a hand valve. Most inflatable gags will not hold in the gagged person’s mouth well, so the gag is usually paired with a ring gag to keep it in place.

kinds of gags 30 (knotted)  kinds of gags 29 (knotted)  kinds of gags 28 (knotted)

Knotted: a knotted gag is a blend of the ball and cleave gags. The scarf either has a knot tied in the middle and placed in the gagged person’s mouth or is an over the mouth (OTM) gag placed backward with the knot tied inside the person’s mouth. The knotted gag is able to soak up the saliva that the ball gag does not and can be easily washed for reuse. Knots can be doubled or tripled to fit the size of the gagged person’s mouth.

Layered: this is a term for a series of gags over each other, for example an Over the Mouth (OTM) over a cleave gag. Another piece of cloth could be tied under the gagged person’s chin in conjunction with an OTM gag.

kinds of gags 35 (medical)  kinds of gags 34 (medical)  kinds of gags 84 (medical)

Medical: Bondage pornography also depicts the use of medical gags such as the Whitehead gag and Jennings gag in BDSM contexts. Such gags allow unlimited access to the mouth. They stop coherent speech, but do little to silence a person.

kinds of gags 39 (mouth corset)  kinds of gags 40 (mouth corset)  kinds of gags 41 (mouth corset)

Mouth corset: a mouth corset is a type of neck corset that covers both the neck and the mouth. Incorporating a gag into a neck corset presents a few safety issues: should the wearer begin to choke, it is not easy to remove the gag quickly. For this reason, most mouth corsets use a simple muzzle gag that merely covers the mouth and does not force anything into the mouth, thus minimising the risk. Despite not forcing anything into the mouth, mouth corsets are usually very effective in gagging the victim due to the fact that the chin piece prevents the wearer from opening their mouth and dislodging the gag and the lacing at the back of the corset holds the gag tightly against the mouth making a very effective seal. Also, the cheeks are compressed.

Mouthguard: this gag has two mouthguards, similar to those worn by football and hockey players. One rests on the lower teeth of the wearer while the other is against the top. Again, like sports mouthguards, these mouthguards can be softened in boiling water to fit to the mouth of the wearer. The mouthguards are attached to a front faceplate, like most plug gags, and straps from the front to the back.

kinds of gags 42 (muzzle gag)  kinds of gags 46 (muzzle gag)  kinds of gags 47 (muzzle gag)

Muzzle: a muzzle gag works in a similar way as an OTM gag, only that they are usually made of leather, are fastened around the head with buckles and straps, and cover the lower part of the face. They have different shapes and colors, depending on the manufacturer. It is so called because it resembles a muzzle used on animals, with a flexible pad which straps over the mouth, and sometimes also around the cheeks and chin. Muzzle gags have a strong psychological effect on some people, because of the association of being restrained in a way generally associated with animals. Restricting movement of the jaw and covering the cheeks can both increase the efficiency of a gag. It is difficult to draw the line between a muzzle gag and a head harness with attached gag.
Muzzle gags are probably one of the oldest gags and illustrations showing muzzle-like gag devices have been observed from early colonial times. A muzzle gag may also have an attached posture collar and may also be fitted with an integrated pecker gag.

kinds of gags 48 (panel)  kinds of gags 49 (panel)  kinds of gags 50 (penis gag)

Panel gag: same as a muzzle gag except without a head harness.

Pecker gag: a pecker or penis gag is a gag that has a bulge resembling a phallus (an erect penis) or a nipple that is placed into the mouth to enable the wearer to suck on it in a manner similar to an adult pacifier. The use of a phallus shape is intended to give it an erotic connotation, but it may be a large knob similar to a ball gag or it may be inflatable. The pecker may be wide and flat and large enough almost to fill the mouth, intended to depress the tongue. To keep the gag in the mouth, it is usually paired with a ring, muzzle or panel gag attached to a strap that buckles behind the head.

kinds of gags 55 (ring gag)  kinds of gags 54 (ring gag)  kinds of gags 53 (ring gag)

Ring: a ring gag is similar to a ball gag, except that the ball is replaced by a hollow ring. The ring reduces the risk of choking, and allows access to the mouth. Oral sex may be performed if the ring is big enough. A ring gag will cause the subject to drool uncontrollably, this often being the purpose of the gag.

kinds of gags 57 (rope gag)  kinds of gags 58 (rope gag)  kinds of gags 59 (rope gag)

Rope: a rope gag consists of a length of rope wound multiple times through the mouth of the person being gagged – similar to a cleave gag. Soft rope, such as nylon, works well for the comfort of the person being gagged, but rougher rope, such as hemp, will scratch the lips quite a bit. Rope gags can be made into a part of a full-body tie as well, if the person tying the “victim” up uses the same length of rope for the gag as he does for the tie.

kinds of gags 61 (spider gag)  kinds of gags 64 (spider gag)  kinds of gags 63 (spider gag)

Spider Gag: a variation on the ring gag, the spider gag is also called a 2nd generation ring gag. The ring has hooks on the sides so as to keep the wearer from flipping the ring horizontally in their mouth. Unlike the ring gag which can be easily flipped, a spider gag is essentially functional and non-decorative. Generally these gags have interchangeable rings so as to accommodate both the wearers’ mouth and the size of any object that might be inserted through the ring.

kinds of gags 73 (mouth stuffed)  kinds of gags 68 (mouth stuffed)  kinds of gags 74 (mouth stuffed)

Stuff: a stuff gag is very similar to, and works in the same way as, the ball gag. The person’s mouth is stuffed with handkerchiefs, scarves, socks, hosiery, panties, day sheers, bandanas or any item rolled into a ball, acting as a stopper. To reduce the chances of choking, the stuff gag is never pushed all the way into the person’s mouth. Instead, a large part of it hangs out of the mouth, allowing the top to pull it out easily when he/she has to. Sometimes, to further ensure that the gag does not accidentally slip deeper into the person’s mouth, the top may use a larger gag. It is then secured with a cleave gag, cloth gag or tape gag. While it works in preventing speech, a person who has been stuff gagged can easily spit it out by pushing it with his/her tongue. However, it is for this reason that the stuff gag is one of the safest gags to use during self bondage, as the person with his/her hands tied can still spit the gag out if he/she feels any kind of discomfort. However, the risks of asphyxiation and choking are still present for someone who is not careful.
For the more extreme application, a stuff gag can be used in conjunction with a tape gag, effectively rendering the partner completely silent. This practice requires greater caution, since the risk for asphyxiation is high.

kinds of gags 79 (tape gag)  kinds of gags 83 (tape gag)  kinds of gags 76 (tape gag)

Tape: a tape gag involves the use of sticky tape over the mouth. The most commonly used types are duct tape, gaffer tape and PVC tape from two to three inches wide. Tape gags are the simplest gags to apply. If the wearer blows while the tape is on it makes it easier to remove, making it not the most effective gag. To better secure the tape, a long strip of tape can be wrapped around the lower part of the person’s head. A strip from ear to ear under the jaw restricts jaw movement, making the gag more effective. However, the tape can cause the skin on the lips to be ripped off and it can irritate the lips and cause fever blisters in those who have dormant fever blisters or cold sores. The tape can also rip hair off when wrapped around the head. The longer the tape is left on, the harder it will be to remove from the skin. Though many prefer ball gags and bit gags during bondage play, tape gags are often used when neither is available. The top may also use tape during a roleplay where a ball gag will be inappropriate; for example, a kidnapper and captive scene that does not immediately lead to sex. Tape is used by kidnappers since it is most effective at keeping hostages quiet. While tape gags can be combined with stuff gags for extra effectiveness, it is easy for one to choke on the stuffing inside of the mouth.

kinds of gags 85 (tube gag)  kinds of gags 88 (tube gag)  kinds of gags 89 (tube gag)

Tube: a tube gag uses a tube instead of a ring. It allows easy breathing but not much mouth access. It is also possible to have a tube through the ball of a ball gag.

kinds of gags 90 (whitehead)  kinds of gags 93 (whitehead)  kinds of gags 91 (whitehead)

Whitehead gag: a Whitehead gag, also called a mouth spreader gag or a dental open mouth gag, is a device to hold the mouth open. The device is similar to a Jennings gag, the main difference being the two ratchets in front of toll.

These above are the standard types. There are then more complicate gags that are combination of one or more kinds. With a little bit of fantasy you can even made your own…

kinds of gags 98 (special)  kinds of gags 94 (special)  kinds of gags 95 (special)
kinds of gags 96 (special)  kinds of gags 97 (special)  kinds of gags 99 (special)